A thriving intimate marriage is living purpose-driven, building a relationship with your Maker and intentionally creating network and impacting humanity by your family’s positive contribution.
This month of March, you are permitted to keep celebrating women, mothers, wives, sisters, daughters, girls, ladies and babes by inspiring them to greatness.
My Dream by Josh Hind
To have someone to love is my dream / Someone with whom I can lean / Someone who understands my fears / Someone who would hold me and wipe away my tears / Someone who sees my struggles and cares / Someone who will always be there / Someone to cherish and hold / Someone with whom I can grow old / Someone whose touch sends tingle down my spine / Someone I can always call mine / Someone whose smile brightens my day / Someone who helps me in every way / Someone who can make a smile out of my frown / Someone whose burden I can bear / Someone who lights up my life / Someone who would be honoured to call me his spouse.
When you got married, you desired the above from your spouse and it is not a bad expectation after all, just that we are not the owner of our lives.
Today, I am reflecting on the lessons from Herbert Wigwe’s funeral. If you go on the internet there are a lot of opinions from different people, both positive and negative.
Wigwe’s life was not just vanity, he was purpose-driven. As the head of your home, are you purpose-driven or just aimless believing whatever will be will be? I think he found purpose and that transformed everything about his life. Purpose is about nurturing a profound connection with yourself and the path that resonates with you. Finding your purpose is about committing to understanding the depths of who you are, acknowledging your unique qualities and fostering a relationship with your true calling. He discovered his purpose and everything in life fell into place for him.
Living a purpose-driven life is not a big deal. It is simply living life every day within your influence to impact other people and connect to your essence with a sense of fulfilment.
Wigwe was a family man with values that transcended earthly wealth. The triangle of his life that l observed is God, Family and Friends, and Career. l noticed all three were rock solid. He was a wealthy man but his space in God’s house was real; he was not too busy to identify with God. In the City of David his church, he showed commitment.
He had a great family life; that was obvious when the daughter said her own tribute.
According to Sanusi, former CBN governor and former Emir of Kano, he was dethroned as Emir by 9am. The plan was to send him on exile for many years, but by 12pm his friend Herbert Wigwe had chartered a plane to pick Sanusi and his family. Instead of moving on exile, Wigwe moved Sanusi and family to Lagos to keep them in a hotel for few days and later rented an apartment for them (all expense paid). He was a man who built strong relationship with others; he was empathetic and compassionate. He is a great source of inspiration by the life he lived and the bridges he built with people. As a family, do you build bridges or burn bridges?
He was a man who placed value on his friendship. He retained old friendships and cultivated new ones. I believe in the power of good network. Who are your friends? Who are those you are sure that whenever life happens, your children will be sorted out because of your friendship with them? Do you have them? If you don’t have them, intentionally start building them now.
The tribute from our former Vice President shows Wigwe was strategic in building and nurturing friendship. He walked the talk of the brotherhood and friendship. It wasn’t just rhetoric, it wasn’t just talk, he walked that talk.
As a Christian, he was a friend to Aliko Dangote, showing the purity of his love and humanity.
Did you follow his story? What additional lessons did you learn? l will be happy to hear your opinion.
