After God, the most important person as a married person you should connect deeply with is your spouse, but how come you are not connecting deeply? The simple answer is because you are distracted, discouraged and you are not intentional about playing as teammate.
Time and again, you were so sure God will intervene in your challenges but suddenly you feel attacked by a lying feeling of discouragement that tells you that your spouse will not change. It is a lie. You can begin today to walk as a team if you discover your triggers and work with patience.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment of supporting you and your spouse’s spiritual, physical, social, intellectual and emotional life from when you married till death do you part.
There is a God-given calling on your family that can only be released through playing on same team as teammates. That is, unity of purpose through the instrumentality of accepting and loving your spouse unconditionally as Christ loved the church.
Every marriage is like a tailor-made dress, unique, made especially to fit, and in marriage, working as a team is the only way we can make it possible for you to be fitted to fulfill the unique purpose God intended for your marriage. Your spouse is the best for you and making your marriage to thrive is hard work that must be done by both of you to have a thriving intimate marriage.
Let us consider some things the can make you and your spouse not to play as teammates! There are many reasons why couples may not play as a team, including:
1. Communication issues: Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings and uncoordinated efforts.
2. Different goals and priorities: When couples have different goals and priorities, they may not be working towards the same objectives.
3. Lack of trust: Trust is essential for teamwork, and when it’s lacking, couples may not feel comfortable relying on each other.
4. Different problem-solving approaches: Not agreeing on same method of solving problem could lead to you not playing as teammates in your marriage.
5. Lack of admitting faults and owning your flaw.
6. Dissatisfaction, resentment and unmet expectations.
7. Family upbringing: Playing as a teammate may be hard for you or your spouse because you didn’t have models.
We complain about people not being able to play as a team in the society but we fail to understand that behind the curtain of homes is where the society is shaped and every home and society begins with husband and wife.
